My husband Calvin and I are blessed to have five grown children, Tamika, Timothy, Terrence, Tyler and Tiffany. They are truly a blessing from God especially in light of the fact that doctors told me the probability of me having children was next to zero. But God, said otherwise!
I could write a book about my love for my children but since this is a devotional, I will give you an example and list a few lessons God taught me along my parenting journey.
When my children were toddlers they would set down and eat all their food (momma’s surprise) and then would ask me for mine. At first, I thought, real love gives all you have. I would give them the food off my plate. However, I learned that I had to set boundaries and teach them that I had needs also. I thank God for being patient with me as a mother and taught me some valuable lessons on what “Loving” my children, really looks like.
Some lessons learned:
- Love them even when you do not agree or like them
- Introduce them to Jesus early so they can have their own relationship with him and have the capacity to know real love and how to love others.
- Set Boundaries
- Let them know that all things are possible with God.
- Take your hands off your adult children’s problems and give them to God in pray. (At times this can be extremely difficult.)
Love is not always giving your children what they want, but giving them what they need. That is exactly one definition of agape love. It is an ever changing, evolving love that changes in every stage and season of life.
I pray the four P’s over our children daily: Lord God, Protect, Provide, give them Purpose and Prudence in all that they do, to bring glory to your name.