Love Is Patient


“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. I Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV

For almost three decades now I have had the privilege of being the officiant of many weddings.   In nearly every ceremony after the giving away of the bride, I say these words, “Marriage was instituted by God in Genesis, reaffirmed by Jesus in Mark, is to be rooted and grounded in love as spoken of by the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 13”. I then go on to slowly and deliberately read through the words of our scripture for today. 

It should not be lost on us that, God is Love. Born- again believers know God as Father, and as the old saying goes, “Fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree”, The First Fruit of the Spirit listed in Galatians 5:22 is love.  I don’t know about you but I am so thankful that, “patient” is the first word that describes true love. It reminds us not only of God’s patience towards us, but, reinforces the reality that all of us are imperfect. Patience gives clarity, strength and adds depth to the marriage relationship, in the declaration of what love is.

Are you patient with your husband/wife? Do you remain calm and understanding or do you have a short fuse when your spouse does something you don’t like or appreciate? When running behind schedule do you get frustrated and upset with your spouse who is not ready yet?  Do they have a habit that gets on your nerves? Ask God for the patience you need, while trusting God to work things out in either you or your spouse.

Patience is the ability to wait without becoming anxious or annoyed, stressed out or angry. God tells us, it’s all part of His design to make us better, “Let patients have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing”, James 1:4. It is facing problems with a sense of confidence that God is always active and helping us to mature in Christ.

The origin of the word “patient” comes from the Latin word patiens. It means, “One who suffers” It’s the same word our health care services use.  Love in its “suffering stage” is the patience of love on display. 

Jesus Christ on the Cross of Calvary, “His Suffering Stage”, was love in full display!  God is patient with us, let us show that same patients to others.  Holy Spirit, slow me down, let patience have her perfect work in me, show me how to trust you more.